A week or so ago my ex-husband friended me on Facebook. In and of itself, not a big deal - we forgave each other a long time ago and truly are friends again. I even helped him through his last heartbreak.
When I checked out his profile he had five friends: me, his current wife, his mom, his dad, and a friend whose hair had turned so white over the past 10 years that I didn't recognize him. At the time he was NEW to Facebook so I shouldn't have giggled that his wives and his parents were his friends, but I did. (I just checked his profile - he has more friends now, as I suspected he would. I also found out he has two sons and I only knew about one.)
Anyhow, the point of this post is that shortly after he friended me I got an Inbox message from his wife. That threw me for a loop. She didn't friend me - just sent a message - but when I first saw who it was from I couldn't imagine what she might have to say to me. Her message was actually very nice. She said it was nice to finally put a face to "the Gwen I have heard about." (Dear Baby Jesus, don't let her check out my pictures or find my blog. Thank you and Amen.)
But one sentence confounded me:
"I want to thank you for filling out those papers for EX so that he could do his Catholic stuff."
I don't remember filling out any paperwork and this can only mean I agreed to annul my marriage. Right?
I suppose at the time I didn't mind the idea and can't think of any rational reason why I should care now, but I do. My marriage happened, damn it. I have pictures and a marriage license and a divorce decree to prove it. I have a small pain in my heart about it's demise to prove it. I have a diamond solitaire necklace made from my engagement ring to prove it.
MY MARRIAGE HAPPENED, DAMN IT!!
Because if it didn't, I'm an old maid.